When I was married, my ex and I traveled to some beautiful places. Granted, we didn’t get to tour Europe or go to the South Pacific, but we made multiple trips to Bermuda and the Caribbean. We loved both of those destinations.
All of these areas have some amazing landscapes. Parts of the Caribbean are extremely poor due to corrupt governments, but each island has gorgeous views. Bermuda…the whole island…is just amazing. In all of these places, there is so much to do from the shopping, to adventure tours, to boating…you could fill every waking minute with activities when you are there.
Now don’t get me wrong, I love taking in the culture of places when I travel. I want to see some of the big sights, do a little shopping, have an adventure here and there…hit the beach if it is warm enough. But I also want to take a day and just enjoy the view from my room. I mean, isn’t the whole purpose of a vacation to relax and unwind?
When my ex and I would travel, there would be a plan for every minute of every day. We were going to go see this site in the morning, have lunch in this part of town, then off to do this adventure. It got to the point where we were trying to do so much that we came home more exhausted than when we left. Wait!!! Wasn’t that supposed to be a vacation? Weren’t we supposed to take some time to stop, breath, rest and reconnect?
But then again, in my marriage there never really was a connection. Another story for another day…
While I haven’t been able to travel for some time due to school, with my role/appearance/presentation to the world changing and having lost years I cannot regain trying to be someone I wasn’t, I am determined to take more time to be present in what I do. There are so many things to see and do in the world that we could never experience everything. So why are so many rushing through moments chasing the next dream? Why aren’t we stopping to appreciate what we have with us in that moment of time.
I guess you could say that is one of the blessings about being on this journey. It has caused me to really think about how I want to live my life moving forward. I can’t go back to live my life the way I wish I could have. I know there is no way I could do everything I have every dreamed of doing or seeing every sight I want to see. So instead of chasing 1000 new experiences, I want to stop and appreciate those 100 truly special moments in life. I want to have those firm memories with others to make me smile on the worst days. I want to be mindful of the world and the people around me instead of just running around trying to do it all.
With that being said, I can promise you that when I finally travel with that special someone, we will be taking a day to just stay inside, appreciate the view, rest…and to appreciate one another. ♥
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Merlot Wine Glass