The Best Gifts For Christmas

N619 The Best Gifts For Christmas Blog

I’ve never been fan of Black Friday.  I’ve also never been a fan of breaking the bank to give a bunch of gifts at Christmas.  Its just way to dangerous to give gifts for all the wrong reasons.

Several years ago, in the wake of my brother’s death, my mother went crazy buying gifts for my niece and nephew.  Part of that was my mom just loved giving gifts.  She really was a very generous soul.  The other part though was she was really overcompensating and trying to do something, anything, to make the kids happier.  There was only one problem…

My mom was ruining herself financially trying to give all of these grand gifts to everyone, especially the kids.  And, because of her decisions, my sister and I had to bail her out financially.

Christmas had always been more about family with me than gifts.  In fact, most of us in the family had already quit giving gifts to one another.  I was at a point in my life where I really didn’t want anything for Christmas.  At least not anything material.

I didn’t realize how important just that time with my family had been until I lost it last year as I became estranged from my family for transitioning.

I won’t lie…last Christmas was HARD.  So was Thanksgiving both last year and this year.  Going into Christmas, I was literally crying some nights as I dreaded another Christmas home alone for the simple reason I wasn’t welcome back in my hometown.  It was horrible and was impacting me both mentally and physically.  I hadn’t really talked about this with anyone, but I actually lost A LOT of weight after Thanksgiving.  I just wasn’t eating as my anxiety of Christmas was building and building.

Then, at my cousin’s wedding, I got invited back home for Christmas.  My aunt and uncle who had vocally supported me as I disclosed pulled me aside and asked me if I was coming home for Christmas.  I told them I would love to but was nervous about being there on Christmas Eve.  Their response was simple, “You never have to spend another Christmas alone so long as we are alive.  You are ALWAYS welcome in our home.”  Needless to say I became rather emotional and cried a bit.  Well…more than a bit, but you get it.  This was all I wanted for Christmas.  To be with my family.

Then, the shock grew even more.  Another aunt and uncle pulled me aside and asked me if I was coming home for the holidays.  Now…this aunt and uncle had initially rejected me when I disclosed.  I told them I was going to try to make Christmas Eve dinner.  Well…my jaw about hit the floor when they invited me to Christmas night dinner.  I couldn’t even hold back the tears when they welcomed me into their home Christmas.  As that aunt hugged me before she left the reception, she whispered in my ear, “I’m sorry we didn’t support you initially.  This isn’t easy for us…but we want to try…and we miss you back home.”

All I had wanted for Christmas this year was to be able to spend one night with my family for Christmas.  And, in reality, I will probably only be able to spend one night home because of work.  But to be invited to both dinners…to have family members who initially rejected me welcome me into their home for dinner…to be able to see my family for the holidays…

There is nothing I wanted more this Christmas.  ♥

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Credits
Botanical
Douglas Fir 1
Douglas Fir 2
Douglas Fir 3

DaD [@ Uber]
“Vintage Sled” PG c/m v.1.0

DaD [@ Anthem]
“Pile of Christmas presents” c/m V.1.0
“Santa Claus sacks” c/m v.1.0
“Xmas present gift 01” m/c
“Xmas present gift 02” m/c
“Xmas present gift 03” m/c

Heart
Snowy Path – Straight – Undecorated

HPMD
Shrub – snowy*b

{moss&mink} [@ Santa, Inc]
Igca Love Bench

2 Comments Add yours

  1. ReadMeri says:

    I’m so happy for you Tiff. Merry Christmas angel xx

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Merry Christmas to you too, my sweet friend. And thank you for just being you. Hugs! ♥♥♥

      Liked by 1 person

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