I’m a southern girl. I’ve always admitted that. There are things I love about being from the south and things I hate. I will say though, we do have our own unique southern quirks.
If you took away my own gender identity issues, I would have to say the south is historically very open, personal and welcoming. Granted, when people talk about the west coast or the northeast, they are talking about these large, metropolitan areas like Boston, New York, Philadelphia, Portland, Seattle, LA, San Francisco, etc. In those larger cities, it’s true. I have never felt as welcomed or as part of a community as I have in the south. But keep in mind, I know I am comparing apples to oranges here because Podunk, South Central Virginia, in the middle of farm country, is the furthest thing from the big city. Granted, that doesn’t keep people from making those assumptions.
I will say though, living in the city i live in now, I do see a difference in how people interact in your moderate sized cities in the south versus those in the north. In Richmond, where I live now, people say hello to each other a lot more. People hold doors for each other. I see people holding elevators for people they hear closing in. People here aren’t perfect and there certainly are people in those other areas who will do the same. I just don’t see it with as much prevalence here where I live.
Now, while I do love to talk about all of our southern charms, I will let you know that if someone says, even in the sweetest southern accent, “Bless their pea pickin’ heart”…just walk away because there just isn’t much of a response to that insult. lol
I really do love the aspect I see here in Virginia of people trying to do small things for each other. You know…open the door for someone, hail a cab for them, give little compliments, etc. In my hometown, you see people doing these things every single day regardless of whether or not they know. A lot of people back home, and I see it where I live, practice the concept of paying it forward.
By the way…if you are reading this, Trouble…I was planning on writing this before I saw your post yesterday. I hope you will forgive me.
So obviously, Trouble and I ended up writing about the same topic. I don’t know if he beat me to the thought but her certainly beat me to posting. Our mutual friend, Eria…yesterday was her birthday. Eria and I have known each other for a few years through the music scene but have only become close friends in the past year or so. She’s a very positive and upbeat woman and has been so supportive of me. She had told me she had something special planned for her birthday a couple of weeks ago and decided to leave me in suspense for a while. Bish… lol
Eria finally let the cat out of the bag last week when she informed us all that she didn’t want gifts or money for her birthday. She just wanted one thing…for her friends to pay it forward with kindness in the world. She wanted her friends to do one random act of kindness yesterday on her birthday. The only rules…it had to be for someone you weren’t close to. And you had to send it to her in a notecard.
Yesterday, during her DJ set, she read several of these notecards with the crowd to share the positive feelings. I couldn’t be at her set, but she sent me her stream so I could listen while I was at work. It really was a neat thing to experience. And…ultimately…on a day when she could have asked to have been showered in gifts and lindens, Eria payed it forward by asking all of us to put the focus on the world and share the love she has shared with all of us.
That was really cool, Eria. Thank you for asking me to be a part of it. And thank you for sharing your birthday with the world.
I do believe you and your Danish accent would fit in very well here in the south. ♥
See it on Flickr.
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