Let me say that again…I…Am…Not…Lost…
It’s weird how things turn out sometimes. How things align to give you the perfect idea for something, spark your creativity, or any of 100 different things. Sometimes it all just comes together to give you this perfect plan in your mind.
I started putting together this outfit the other day. I began with this super cute Dead Dollz skirt and was struggling with what top to wear. We won’t even discuss how many items I went through in my inventory trying to find the right top (guys have it so much easier in this respect). Finally, on like the third run through my inventory, I found this sassy jacket and top from Blueberry and the outfit clicked. Round it out with this awesome new hair release from Truth…and I was ready to shoot.
It wasn’t just the style in general that made this outfit click with me. I mean, I think it’s the perfect spring style. But more than anything, it’s the quote on the shirt that really clicked with me…
My Path Is Different. Doesn’t Mean I’m Lost.
As I start inching closer to presenting full time and confronting the anxiety of showing everyone at work the real me…this quote really spoke to me.
While the world is in a MUCH better place with accepting transgender individuals, we still have a long way to go. There still needs to be more education. There need to be more people in the health care and mental health communities speaking out about how we are normal people. And, as much as I hate to say this, those of us in the transgender community need to be better about speaking up for ourselves.
So many like to think we are lost or confused. And honestly, we get this within the LGB community as well. I think I have shared before that there is an LGBTQ bar here that I refuse to go to anymore. The last few times I went there, a significant number of gay men kept telling me that I was confused and really just a gay man but afraid to admit it. When I walk through my office some days, I will hear members of my team share their comments on transgender individuals, especially now that my hospital has a fully coordinated transgender health care network, the first in out state. I mean, hearing people I manage comment on how people like myself are confused, sick, deviant or whatever other terminology they want to use when you are walking through your office and realizing that your own team thinks you are sick is rather sobering.
But again… My path is different. Doesn’t mean I am lost.
As I prepare to finally live as me full time here in the near future, I think back to a conversation the training coordinator and I had a couple of years ago. After I disclosed to him, he went and did a great deal of research on being transgender, the transition process and how my being me might impact the workplace. He wanted to be prepared to both support me and to educate the team. And after he did about two weeks of research, he knocked on my door and the first words out of his mouth were, “Forget anyone telling you that you are sick now or in the future. NO ONE would go through all you are going through if you didn’t know full well this is what you needed. I respect you for taking the steps to be you.”
Ironically, even for those who are congruent in their gender, we all need to remember that all of our paths are different. We all took different paths to reach where we are today. We will all take different paths moving forward. And you know what, all of us will stray off our paths a little as we go through life.
But just because my journey is different than yours doesn’t mean I am lost. It just means its my journey. The same as your journey is yours. ♥
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